Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Our Story - The Beginning

So I met my fiance' last July.  I'm going to be brutally honest here and tell you... I met him on an online dating site.  I had just moved to another state and knew nobody, so I was on one of the free dating sites and just happened to come across his picture.

Oh my goodness, as soon as I saw him I wanted him:)  But I never thought he'd actually email me back.  His description was very short and to the point... "bleed blue and orange, lots of ink..."  So I sent him an email that told him I only bleed blue.  Is that going to be a problem?  He said No, it was not a problem and asked for my phone number.

I had a little bit of a problem giving out my phone number, but I had never been so attracted to a picture/profile before so I gave it to him and asked him to text me.

He did!  We became chat buddies the next morning and had a really light-hearted conversation in which I learned he hunted, fished, and loved football season.  He was a charmer.  I didn't know it at the time, but he actually had quite a few chat buddies and never expected it to go much farther than that.

But after a couple of days, he asked me to come over to his house and I freaked out.  Backed out of the whole thing.  Told him I wasn't ready to date right now.  Seriously, I was scared to death.

Instead of getting upset, he was soooo sweet about it.  Told me he understood... that he'd be there when I was ready.  He really knew exactly what to say and he's good at that to this day.

So we never really stopped texting and a month later I was finally ready to meet him.

That first meeting was a disaster, really.  I was such a nervous wreck that I could barely talk.  All I kept thinking was he is such an attractive man.  He must be used to dating beautiful women.  He would never want to date me.

He hugged me a couple of times and kissed me so quickly on the lips I could only imagine how nice it could be if he kissed me for real.

I learned that day that he was an avid fisherman who loved to spearfish.  He had more deer horns on his wall than anybody I'd ever met, and out in his woodworking shop he had a large set of tusks that he told me came from a wild boar he killed when he was 13 years old.  Quite a few snake skins out there, too.  And a picture of him holding up a fat rattlesnake that reached to his feet...eek!  He hinted a little bit about gator hunting but I didn't get those stories until later.  Anyway, you get the picture.

I ended up leaving early that first day.  He texted me a couple hours later and made sure I'd made it home safe, but after that I didn't text him for two or three days.  I just couldn't imagine that he would like me.  But I couldn't resist and texted him several days later.  He told me he thought I didn't like him:)  I told him the truth... that he must be used to dating beautiful women and I didn't think he liked me.

You know what he said?  He said, "Who told you you're not a beautiful woman?"


He always knows what to say.

So that was the beginning of my very own love story.


  1. Congratulations, Leah! All your readers are happy for you. Could you tell us what service you used?
    I have a sister in Kentucky, and she needs what you've found.

    1. Ruby,

      We used I wish your sister all the best.


  2. Leah, I am so happy for you! I wish you all the best in your new relationship. I do think you should tell him about your desire for domestic discipline if you ultimately wish for this to be a part of your relationship. He needs to know you as a whole person, and when the time is right, let him read some of your writing. If it is a part of who you are, it can help avoid any feelings of deception or confusion later on. If he truly cares about you, he will still accept you and then you will know if he wants this type of relationship. At least then you will go into the marriage knowing whether you will/won't have a CDD relationship.

    I do wish you the best and please keep us updated.



    1. Kady... I agree. I would like to tell him. But the fact is, I am still pretty nervous around him and can't imagine talking to him about this right now. Plus, to be honest with you, I would be afraid of a real spanking from him because he is not the type to mess around with discipline...kind of a get 'er done kind of guy. And I've never tried to hide the fact that I'm a big scaredy-cat;)

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  4. aww, that's actually very sweet. I can kind of relate, but when I am nervous or insecure I do the opposite of keep quiet. I act loud, boisterous and (admittedly) rather immature. I have had people ask me if I was deliberately "bratting". LOL. When I learned what that was I felt like a moron...
    it's things like that that led me to check out things like "domestic discipline"